Sometimes when things don’t work out the way we wanted it can feel heart breaking and devastating.

However if we can learn to experience this as our hearts opening and expanding to allow more love and compassion to flow in and out between one another….this helps embrace the healing force in life that each of us has within.

That is part of the perfect remedy to allow what appears to be magical miracles in your life to unfold.

Whatever the loss you are experiencing in this moment ; we all have the power to choose to learn to shift our perspective and expand our true selves to gain growth, vitality and love to be the healing force that rises from within. It’s just a matter of learning how and practicing daily.

How to keep the power of choice even when everything is changing and out of your control

Even when it feels like everything is being turned upside down, you have the choice to change your perspective and see the beauty that is unfolding in everything around you if you just learn how to open your heart.

This shift in perception will allow miracles to appear even during those undeniably difficult times that are necessary for your growth. Losses are an integral  part of life and they are happening all the time to everyone.

When you begin to understand that losses are opportunities for your awakening, then the bliss can flow more freely. You experience life in its most magical and miraculous way because you realize every moment is a blessing. Every breath is a miracle within itself because it allows us to keep on living when  our hearts feel like shattering into a million pieces.

When you learn to choose differently your life becomes filled with miracles and wonder and heart connections that get richer every day because you allow yourself to go deeper within yourself, embrace the magic of love, compassion and wisdom , and then share it in tangible ways to touch another person’s heart.

How choice affects our life?

The choices we make not only affect our lives, but those choices affect and influence the lives of all those people who love and care about you.

When you choose to stop reacting in fear or anger, then you take responsibility for your choices — for yourself . You are no longer a victim to anything because when you take responsibility for everything that happens to you, that means that you are responsible for all the joy and happiness as well.

When you take responsibility for everything in your life, then there is nothing outside of yourself creating an issue within  your heart . You learn to see the perfection and beauty in this moment because it gives you the opportunity to share love with others without ego or expectations .

It enriches you and others around you. It expands your heart so that the more love you share, the more love is created in this world for everyone.

You see yourself as a powerful force here on earth because you realize that each choice we make has an impact on us and everyone else around us. The choices we make manifest  into our reality and the kind of life we live. Everything is created by our own thoughts. That’s why when your heart feels like breaking into a million pieces, it’s because you are creating that scene in your head right now.

Is life all about choices?

The choices you make are what fuel the journey of your life.

You have to understand that every single choice we make is based on our own past experiences, beliefs and values . It doesn’t matter if it’s a big decision or small decision; we will always be filled with fear, doubt and anxiety about making the wrong decision.

But we have to learn how to face that fear of making the wrong choice head -on, and understand that at some point you just have to give yourself the permission to make a decision . You don’t always have time for preparation. Sometimes you need to trust your intuition and take a chance on something even if it seems like you are jumping in the deep end.

As long as you have the courage to take a chance, then that’s all you need. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.”

Every decision we make determines how we experience life and what kind of life we will lead. As I always say, the #1 reason why many people are not living their dreams is that they keep waiting for the perfect time when the stars align and everything is right in their world.

Yet at that moment, you feel so unready and unprepared to take on that opportunity. You will never be ready! Don’t wait for the stars to align in a certain way. Just do what you feel inspired to do right now and the stars will magically align themselves later on.

You might be thinking, “Well, I’m not ready yet! It just doesn’t feel like the perfect time, it feels like my heart is just too heavy right now.”

I understand what you are going through because that is exactly how I felt when I started my blog. My heart was filled with so much doubt and uncertainty about putting myself out there in the public realm. It took me a few months to work up the courage, but once I finally did it— everything fell into place and it can for you too.